Understanding Your Partner Is A Narcissist
The First Step
To Reclaiming Your Life
You are NOT Crazy, it’s simple your partner is a Narcissist!
The moment you understand with absolute certainty that your partner or husband is a narcissist, will begin a flood of relief as strong as a tsunami from every cell of your body.
The relief from knowing finally what is going on. Understanding with absolute clarity that you are not crazy & you are most definitely not losing your mind.
Why do I say this?
I have been in this exact position. Thinking I was losing my mind. Second guessing every, tiny, minute decision I had to make, to ensure everything was 100% perfect. I was lost, feeling helpless and hopeless at everything, and the stress which overtook my life, as I felt I was forever walking on egg shells. I felt nothing I could do was ever good enough, as that’s how my husband made me feel. I wasn’t thin enough, pretty enough, clever enough, simply not enough.
When I understood I was dealing with understanding a narcissist, my life started to now make sense. No longer did 2 plus 2 equal 5, I now had an answer as to why my once loving husband had evolved into a cold, calculating and cruel human being. It didn’t matter how often he would profess his love to me, actions are what matter, so take note of what your partner does, not what they say. Words are exactly that words.
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When you realise your partner is a Narcissist, it can feel like you have found the missing piece from a million-piece jigsaw, that you have been searching for too bloody long? It’s as if somebody switched the lights back on, after living in a world of darkness. You can have a life full of promise, love and light, but not when you are in a relationship with a Narcissist.
Signs Your Partner is a Narcissist:-
- You have lost your sense of self-worth. Your relationship that began in a wonderous love bubble, has now slowly and silently, eroded your confidence, your self-esteem, your sense of self, as you feel you can’t do anything right in the eyes of your partner. Your partner makes life difficult in many different areas of your life, yet the most difficult to understand is his dislike of your life-long friends, the ones that have stuck by you during the good and the bad times. He makes socializing or spending any time with them so uncomfortable that you have stopped seeing them, trying to bring peace back into to your relationship?
- They have absolute Financial Control. Financial control is Domestic Abuse, which many women don’t understand. Regardless if you work or are a stay at home mother, not having access to all finances, not being able to view all financial statements, nor being involved in any financial decisions is absolute Domestic Abuse. This happens to many women, I can put my hand up and admit this was me. I was in a high paying six figure salary, yet I allowed this to happen. I’m not ashamed to admit it, I simply implicitly trusted my husband and couldn’t see his controlling, narcissistic actions until it was too late.
- They are experts at Lying. It probably has taken you a long time to comprehend how frequently your partner lies to you. At first when you questioned something that didn’t feel right, they would deflect your question or have a perfectly reasonable answer that made sense. Over time when you know for a fact they are lying, their response has reverted to turning the conversation upside down and in the end you will be accused of lying. I’m sure you are reading this and agreeing with me. Sadly, lying over time, erodes your trust in your partner, as anybody who lies cannot be trusted. Is this who you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Narcissists, believe it or not, are inherently insecure people. This is why they need to discredit you their partners, eroding whatever confidence they can, to ensure that you don’t shine or stand out in any way. There is only room for the narcissistic to sparkle, and he or she will extract as much of your energy and vitality as they humanly can, while you remain in the relationship. This is their modus operandi, as these humans will do anything to destroy you and call it love.
You have to understand, if your partner was as confident and secure within themselves, why then would they have any need to criticize, insult and treat you the way they do? No, if they were the confident human being they portray to the world, they would be kissing your feet, as you are the best thing that ever happened to them. Trust me, narcissists pick the best, the brightest, the prettiest, the smartest, to make them look better, so please remember that.
I want to end with what I feel is the most important point, which is –
‘You are absolutely 150% perfect exactly as you are.’
I’m sure your partner has somehow led you to believe that you are not good enough in many different areas, understand with absolute certainty, it’s simply bullshit, and don’t believe anything different.
If you are in a situation and you feel some guidance will help you, please reach out to me at any time, or Download here my FREE 5 Day Recovery From A Narcissistic Relationship, to help you begin your healing process.
Have a beautiful day.